16 August 2010

Old-Fashioned


We make memories all the time.

Some stay longer than others, but the ones I am desperate to always remember are the memories of my boys being small and sweet and innocent.

Presley and Cash are gentle little souls and they play together so beautifully (most of the time).

This weekend we took them to soft play. We all genuinely enjoyed ourselves. Andy and I were proud and delighted to watch their confidence in trying new activities. Presley fearlessly investigated the entire area and took himself off in search of slides and trampolines. Cash needed a little more assistance, but both boys had huge smiles on their faces and bright pink cheeks.

They are less confident dealing with other children. We watched two older boys attempting to get them to hand over their Little Tykes cars. There was no confrontation, but my boys silently held their ground. The older boys then rammed them into the walls in their cars. Andy and I both shouted 'uh uh no!' at the same time and the older boys sloped off.

Presely and Cash aren't the sort of boys to ram and crash their cars. They are more likely to pretend they are driving to Blackpool and park their cars at the imaginary Sea Life Centre and stroll off to see the 'fancy fishes'.

I guess they get their gentle personalities from Andy and I. We don't push ourselves forward and are both more likely to hang back. The boys are always last to get a musical instrument at Toddler Group because they don't know how to push in.

Presley and Cash are at a lovely age. They have beautiful manners (most of the time) and see the good in everything. A trip to the shops is an adventure for them.

I recently took them to Sainsbury's. They always sit in a twin trolley and take it in turns to throw the shopping in. They quite often sing as we're going round. At the checkout they always say hello to the cashier and give a running commentary on what I'm packing into our shopping bags. On this occasion the cashier said to me 

'They're lovely boys, really old-fashioned'

I thanked her. We all waved goodbye. On the way home I thought about what she said and totally agreed. I took it as a compliment. If old-fashioned means sweet and good-natured, then yes they are.

I wonder how long they'll stay that way?

In anticipation of them growing up I'm hanging onto as many lovely memories as I can.













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35 comments:

  1. What wonderful images. I love softplay as do the boys too. I am big on Manners too!

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  2. I think that we could all be doing with being a bit more old fashioned. :)

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  3. I want old fashioned children and I want them now. The most polite thing people say to me about mine is that they are very spirited, and we all know what that means.

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  4. What a lovely post. You should be so proud of your boys. Manners are a simple lesson, yet so many parents don't instill them.

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  5. Bless them, I wish BG was gentle

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  6. They really do sound like lovely boys x

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  7. Oh please, can we come for a playdate? Little L is very very calm, too. There is no pushing or hitting or snatching toys, she even wipes her own little nose when it's snotty (she's only 16 months old). I am kind of proud to have such a well tempered child - on the other hand I am scared, because I don't want her to be pushed over by less behaved children.

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  8. This is so lovely! My boy is gentle too. On holiday he stood at the bottom of the small waterslide watching confusedly as people pushed in front of him and waiting patiently for his turn. Having said that, last time we were at the supermarket he told the cashier he was going to put me in the bin for some reason, so maybe it's just a good act!

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  9. "Old fashioned" is polite speak for "I wish more children were like that" ;)

    I know that you're proud, Sandy, and so you should be x

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  10. They sound like such lovely gentle boys Sandy. My bear is the same, will always stand back and let something be taken away rather than get involved in a confrontation. Lovely soft play snaps too x

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  11. They are gorgeous Sandy! My DD was very afraid of other children too, but in the last year she has really blossomed in confidence (and still no pushing and shoving, thank goodness!) which I'm relieved about as I did worry a little bit about her being pushed about at school. No chance!

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  12. They sound like beautiful boys in every way. It's nice to take a moment out to be proud of our kids... I don't do this often enough and reading posts like this really reminds me to do it more.

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  13. A lovely post Sandy. I too pride myself in the polite nature of my children. Until they get home and try to kill each other that is!

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  14. How lovely. I hope C will be like this

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  15. That is good, mine can be like that but we do have days where I loose the will to live!

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  16. They sound so lovely - do you want to swap?! Actually mine are generally pretty good - just not, as others have said, at home!

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  17. How lovely! So many great posts this week!

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  18. That's really lovely, but also a bit sad that the lady thought that your boys lovely manners and sweet natures make them old fashioned even though I know what she meant.
    Kath

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  19. They sound like lovely little boys! A real credit to you and Andy as parents.

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  20. What lovely pictures and they sound like lovely children xx

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  21. How lovely, that is a compliment. I am afraid mine are noisy and feisty, yep there is me! lol Mich x

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  22. Aww.... they are lovely boys anyway, Sandy. I know that from personal experience. Missy Woo loves those trampolines. You are very brave taking them there at the weekend - I try to avoid them as you can get some real rough uns in there. Mine are good in places like that - if someone was to push or snatch something from my two, they'd just look confused and / or come to me.

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  23. What a lovely post - made me smile big time when I was reading it.

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  24. Oh I know! I love this post because I can so easily relate to it. I want to hold on to so many precious moments. I started a diary that was meant to just be about special moments, written with the date but in random page order so I didnt feel I had to write in it all the time. I seem too busy to write things down--its filled with noted on scrap paper for transferring to the notebook one day. I dont want to be so busy, I want to record every little thing!!!!

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  25. It is great they play nicely together. We did not play with my brother, but we love each other.

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  26. My 2 yo little man is using manners like a disarming weapon at the moment, it's beautiful "sorry mummy" "fankoo mummy" "sorry no like that" he is soft and soppy with a streak of bull in a china shop. I hope to keep a balance I don't want too much smashed china :-D

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  27. Aww that such a lovely post and your boys do sound so sweet indeed. I am sure they will stay like this, there is no reason for them to change. They might go through phases but their good nature will stay their true nature I am sure. You are so right to enjoy it now, it scares me at time how quickly it goes. x

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  28. The Mad House, thank you :-)

    Mummy, I totally agree :-)

    Jamie, oh! They are spirited at times too :-)

    Ang, you're right, manners are not a priority these days. Shame.

    New Mummy, ah, bless! x

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  29. Photo Puddle, I think so, but I'm biased!

    Met Mum, the getting pushed around thing is a worry. We're doing our best to move down your way. If we ever get there you're on for a play date :-)

    Sleepless Mum, oh bless him, that's exactly what mine are like. Mine are not always angels in the supermarket! :-)

    Nickie, fankoo :-) x

    Baking Mad Mama, how lovely that you have a gentle boy too :-) x

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  30. Ladyblahblahs, how lovely to hear your little girl has gained in confidence :-)

    nvt, I just hope people don't get sick of me going on about them!!

    Sian, haha, yes, mine usually behave better when we're out than they do at home! x

    B4kersgirl, I hope so too :-)

    Nat, oh me too, they're not angels all the time! :-)

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  31. Plan B, there are some days where I would give them away!! :-) x

    If I could escape, thank you :-)

    Parklover, I know what you mean! x

    Laura, aw, thank you. If they ever do anything nice we say I blame the parents, if they're naughty we say it's nature not nurture! :-) x

    Kerry, thank you, they are most of the time :-) x

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  32. Mich, there's nothing wrong with noisy and feisty :-) x

    Kate, thank you. We got there when it opened on a Sunday, so it wasn't too bad! Your little ones are lovely too :-) x

    MoI, thank you, I'm smiling reading these lovely comments :-) x

    Michelloui, I know exactly what you mean. That's a great idea to fill in a memory book. I've been really slack filling the boy's books. I'm hoping this blog will fill in the gaps :-) x

    Mirka, I used to play with my brother, but we fought a lot too! x

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  33. Kailexness, I love that. Balance is good :-) x

    Perfectly Happy Mum, I hope you're right about them not changing too much. Cash (nearly 2) said to me today 'My not a baby any more, my a big boy'. They grow up so fast x

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  34. I think being called old fashioned is one of the biggest compliments you could get! Your boys sounds lovely but that's mainly because you and Andy have instilled this behaviour and values into them. It's good they're not all grabby grabby and pushy.

    A lady called Eleanor 'like a character out of a picture book the other day.' I didn't like to ask which one she meant!

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  35. Deer Baby, I'd have had to ask which book!! x

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