24 June 2009

Mother Hen

I've been back to playgroup again this afternoon. Loads of the other mums said hello to me or smiled. I feel comfortable there now, I had a couple of chats. I spent most of the time playing with the baby on the mat, keeping one eye on the toddler.

The toddler was playing on his own as usual, pushing the shopping trolley up and down. He also played with the toy kitchen, occasionally holding up a piece of toy fruit to show me. Yes it's a banana! Oh look, you've got a pear!

He then went over to the wendy house. He likes opening and closing doors. Over and over and over again. Soon some girls went in and made themselves at home. When my boy tried to go in, and admittedly he did try about a dozen times, a little girl shouted at him 'WE DON'T WANT YOU IN HERE'.

I wanted to run over, scoop him up in my arms and say 'there there, horrid girls'. My eyes were stinging with tears. I want to wrap him up in cotton wool and protect him forever. I am a mother hen. I'm sure I'm also a lioness who will defend her cubs from attack. No one will ever love him as much as I do.

He was fine. He walked away and played with the lego.

Perhaps I should worry less, but I can't. I'm his Mum.



  1. Ahh, its always hurtful when other kids are mean.
    However, it sounds like your boy handled it very well - I wouldnt worry too much - your doing a great job!


  2. Oh it's horrible when confronted by that! Rosemary is pretty tough-skinned and seems to just not hear negative stuff, though I'm sure her time will come eventually. It's hard to fight the reflex to go and stand up for them, though!

  3. RM, thanks, he didn't seem bothered at all, it was me! x

    Tasha, I guess I need to toughen up, not him! How am I going to cope when he goes to school? Oh dear. x

  4. Oh, I know exactly what you mean but I've learnt the hard way. Kids are (not always I have to admit) resilient and will probably all be playing nicely tomorrow! I also learnt that it's not always a good idea to be working close to your own child. I know a lot of parents do work in the same school as their children attend but then they become over protective. Children need independence and to learn to stick up for themselves. Like I said, I learnt the hard way. But I really do sympathise with you because I wrap Amy up in cotton wool constantly - I don't know what goes on at school anymore but I do know she can hold her own!

    CJ xx

  5. CJ, I know you're right, children do need to learn independence. I've got as much to learn as him about letting go and letting him fight his own battles x

  6. Glad you're still enjoying playgroup. I'm exactly the same when S is confronted by other children (which luckily has only happened once or twice). I have to really fight the urge to help him, but it doesn't seem to bother him at all!

  7. Clarey, funny how it washes over them! x

  8. I am just like you. Heart hurts but head knows they'll learn to cope. And they will.

  9. Thats great yours still going and all enjoying it , its hard watching our children in the big wide world.
    Will just be preparing him for when little brother is running around not letting him join in

  10. R, They break your heart every day!! x

    Laura, I'm sticking with it, it will do us all good. x

  11. Mean Girls!!

    Aww, I'd have been exactly yhte same - I dread my little man being old enough for someone to be horrible to him! I'm sure he'll be more than capable of looking after himself - but I'm also sure that I'll have that liones thing going on too!

    Lego's more fun anyway ;) xx

  12. Ah bless x I'm dreading that stage (I'm worried BG might be one of those horrid girls!)x

  13. Leslieanne, it's harder for us mums I think x

    NM, I was very bossy as a child (so my mum tells me). I think they're all as capable of being horrid as they are of being lovely!!! x

  14. Wait until he gets his first girlfriend rejection.

    It still hurts,


  15. GG, Oh dear, how will I cope? I know it does them no good to wrap them up in cotton wool, but I can't stand the thought of them getting hurt! x


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