Luckily I also saw a documentary called 'My child won't eat'. The advice was to let them eat what they want. The most important thing is that they get enough calories. You could see that these children were healthy. One of them would only eat yoghurt, another lived on Wotsits and chocolate. Clearly these were extreme cases, but it made me relax my attitude to feeding.
Perhaps I'm being too hard on myself - but don't we all do that as parents? I beat myself up most days for being a crap mum. Sometimes I forget to change a nappy, sometimes I get distracted by the computer, but I try to make up for it in other ways. Obviously your children want to spend time with you, so I spend hours reading every book in the house or playing peek-a-boo or making up songs.
The other thing I do to show them love is to feed them, it's a natural maternal instinct to nurture your loved ones. This is where the feeding problems can start. Rejection is so hard to take, rejection of food can be equated to rejection of love. I am learning not to take offence when I've spent half an hour cooking a meal that gets thrown on the floor. More importantly I try very hard not to show annoyance. I try to keep in mind that the behaviour is naughty not the child, and act accordingly. I clear up the mess and offer an alternative.
I thought it may be useful to share what my 21 month old toddler eats. When I wrote it down I realised that it's not that bad. I hope! A good day is one where he eats all of what he's given, a bad day is one where he doesn't! On a bad day I keep offering different foods until he will eat something, while keeping an eye on my poor carpet.
What he eats on a good day:
7am - Milk
9am - Super porridge made with milk
11am -Rice cakes
1pm - Tuna & sweetcorn sandwich and a yoghurt
3pm - Banana
5pm - Cheese & tomato pizza, more sweetcorn, a pear and a breadstick
7pm - Milk
What he eats on a bad day:
7am - No milk
9am - Two spoonfuls of super porridge, a fromage frais, Cheerios
11am -Some of my toast, strawberries
1pm - One bite of a cheese sandwich, strawberries, breadsticks, branflakes
3pm - Half a rusk, an animal biscuit, strawberries (you see a pattern here?)!
5pm - Two sausages, two peas, no broccoli, no potato, a plum, a custard dessert
7pm - Milk
I would love your comments on this. What do your children eat on a good day? Do you have bad days?