tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post3845460492880535673..comments2023-12-27T15:25:34.048+00:00Comments on Baby Baby: The Little Girl and the Dietsanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-51798499448944157142012-01-31T13:04:19.582+00:002012-01-31T13:04:19.582+00:00Otilia, thank you for your comment. I'm sorry ...Otilia, thank you for your comment. I'm sorry you also had a bad relationship with food from early on. Eating 'normally' is the only way forward. Try looking in the mirror and finding at least one thing that you like. I bet you could do that. Hugs to you too xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-41364194630402265022011-12-24T08:37:30.841+00:002011-12-24T08:37:30.841+00:00So many lovely comments! I too had a mum that was ...So many lovely comments! I too had a mum that was on a constant diet. And I learned from a young age that if I want too be thin I need to diet :( well I use to be bulimic in my teens and since then I tried all diets in the world! But now I know the only way is eating health! I might not be the best looking but I am me. Still have a problem with being fat and I don't like myself but I hope that it will change soon....<br />Hugs and thank you for writing this!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02886095836279480469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-32322788379747452312011-12-13T22:36:21.962+00:002011-12-13T22:36:21.962+00:00Anon, I'm glad it has helped knowing that you ...Anon, I'm glad it has helped knowing that you are not alone in your upbringing. These things we do to ourselves are usually done in private. I'm pleased you have sought help. I'm sure you will not pass on your eating disorder to your daughters, because you are self-aware and understand why you are like you are. Good luck xxxsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-12387053849860450832011-11-17T09:11:29.253+00:002011-11-17T09:11:29.253+00:00Sandy, while I was reading your post I thought tha...Sandy, while I was reading your post I thought that somebody was writing about my life. I still cant believe that somebody has had the same upbringing as me. I read this with tears in my eyes not feeling sorry for me but for the little girl who was made to feel so different as such an early age. As you do I dont blame my mum but she did pass on her eating disorder`s to me. After suffering from bulliemia for many years i have only just got the help i needed. I kept my disorder a secret for more than 25yrs and only asked for help as I dont want to pass this onto my 2 young daughters. Thanks for writing that its nice to know Im not the only one xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-23653313127260471652011-10-27T19:33:44.111+01:002011-10-27T19:33:44.111+01:00Linda, thank you for taking the time to comment. I...Linda, thank you for taking the time to comment. It's lovely that you have broken the cycle too. It is difficult to change the habits of a lifetime, but if we can do it gradually and accept that we will slip back occasionally, then we will get there. I love that Victoria Wood quote! Good luck at WW, lovely lady and I hope we get to meet up again soon. Take care xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-55488669750242335772011-10-26T09:50:07.101+01:002011-10-26T09:50:07.101+01:00Another difficulty I have is well meaning friends ...Another difficulty I have is well meaning friends who advise me in different ways - I've been kindly urged to go to WeightWatchers, buy shakes and have a gastric band in recent years - I know they mean well but each gentle suggestion has been something that has made me feel worse -- 'ooh' they say 'so and so has lost 10lbs in three days just by eating raw courgettes and drinking cold tea' - well bully for them! Like lots of binge eaters/yo-yo dieters I can quote you chapter and verse on calories and healthy eating - to quote Victoria Wood, just because I know how many calories there are in a Curly Wurly doesn't mean I can't eat ten. The best choice I made was talking to a nutritionits, a lovely woman who spent my time with her explaining that I didn't lack 'willpower' and that food wasn't 'good' 'bad' or 'naughty' - it's just food. Yes I am now back at WW and I am all fired up but it is from a health point of view, I am going to try and trundle quietly along and get fitter, not compare myself with anyone else - yes I have weight to lose but if I have a bad week I won't be making out like it's a crisis. Good luck to you Sandy - you are beautiful inside and out. xxLindahttp://www.havealovelytime.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-88842888032849049202011-10-24T21:18:21.865+01:002011-10-24T21:18:21.865+01:00Fat is not ugly, fat is not weak and fat is not la...Fat is not ugly, fat is not weak and fat is not lazy. Inside my layers of fat is a healthy eating, slim woman wanting to break free, but thanks to another Ryvita and cottage cheese mum is a woman who can and does comfort eat for England. Well done for writing this Sandy, from the times I've met you I know how beautiful you are. As you know my girls are older and I am so pleased to have broken the chain and see they don't have my relationship with/attitude to food. I struggle on and have bad days but am trying my best not to beat myself up for slipping into habits learned over a lifetime. I wish you the courage and strength to do the same, plenty of people understand my love, good luck to you. xxxxxlindahttp://www.havealovelytime.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-3566938828687718462011-10-24T19:51:24.523+01:002011-10-24T19:51:24.523+01:00Porridgebrain, ha! I also leave confessional comme...Porridgebrain, ha! I also leave confessional comments on other people's blogs. Sorry to hear you're going through a bad patch. I'm glad I understand why I have mine, but it's still there regardless. Much love to you too x<br /><br />Cazroz, we have a similar approach here. The boys understand that too much salt is unhealthy and they know it's good to have a balanced diet (for want of a better word). I like using teeth as a reason not to eat too much sugar. Most of their snacks are healthy, but I don't mind if they eat chocolate biscuits at their grandparents' houses. Balance is key xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-69244534835097898192011-10-24T19:45:13.732+01:002011-10-24T19:45:13.732+01:00Lindy, I love you too and I'm delighted you...Lindy, I love you too and I'm delighted you're doing so well at WW. Diets aren't for me, but they clearly work for others x<br /><br />Becky, that was the main reason for writing the post. I had seen some tweets about 7 year old girls wanting to lose weight and it made me so sad x<br /><br />Rosie, it was lovely to see you too - as always. I know you understand. Yes, hate is a strong word and I would never say it out loud, but it is how I feel. I have had some therapy, but I'm not seeing anyone at the moment. I think it's about time I took some action. I appreciate you being there x<br /><br />Babes, thank you for your kind words. I'm struggling to type now as I've got tears in my eyes. I'll have a look for that carnival and email if I can't find it x<br /><br />NotSupermum, thank you my dear xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-35366701844718969152011-10-24T19:36:01.571+01:002011-10-24T19:36:01.571+01:00Make Do Mum, I'm no longer that hard on myself...Make Do Mum, I'm no longer that hard on myself when I fall off the wagon as I understand that's how I am. It's funny how we've all had such different upbringings x<br /><br />The Mad House, Diet is a 4-letter-word around here too! x<br /><br />Mummy Matters, what a lovely thing to say, I'm really touched. I don't think I've been called a role model before! It was lovely to see you last week x<br /><br />Carol, thanks again for doing that post for me, you are wonderful. You are being sensible with SW and not getting obsessed. The main thing is to eat healthily when you stop going and I'm sure you will. Wish you lived closer so I could get that hug! x<br /><br />Liveotherwise, thank you xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-73209100498628477602011-10-24T08:20:05.414+01:002011-10-24T08:20:05.414+01:00Everything in moderation - so true. My sister-in-l...Everything in moderation - so true. My sister-in-law tells me of kids that come over to hers who are 'banned' from sugar etc and who gorge like crazy the minute they're out of the parental view. So I've gone with the idea that treats are fine at parties and every now and again and if everyone else is eating cake of course she can have cake too - but on regular days wHen it's just us at home we will pick something a little healthier to snack on (which she has no complaints about. She is a fruit fiend) We never, ever discuss weight or 'fat' in front of 3yo but <br />she does know what's healthy/not healthy (though she <br />thinks of it more in terms if what's good or bad for your <br />teeth after a dentist visit to nursery!) So many of the schools round here are rife with anorexia and other eating disorders - so thank you, your post is a brave reminder that a healthy relationship with food begins at a very young age and that being happy with yourself is way more important than whether you are carrying the odd extra pound or two xCazrozhttp://www.carirosen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-23143381226992962052011-10-24T08:19:53.623+01:002011-10-24T08:19:53.623+01:00I hate that you went through this, beautiful girl....I hate that you went through this, beautiful girl.<br /><br />I have an eating disorder too. I can type this here because no one will really notice but there you go. Has been pretty bad lately. And I don't have your awful experiences to excuse me. I wish I knew why it happens sometimes, what it is about this culture that sparks it. Much, much love xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17609099236015944859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-74588589256587707192011-10-24T06:56:25.713+01:002011-10-24T06:56:25.713+01:00Sandy, I've sat here with my fingers poised to...Sandy, I've sat here with my fingers poised to type for a few minutes now but I don't know what to say. Brave post, beautifully written. xxxJeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124374747737466986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-75897330700221144062011-10-24T00:03:19.344+01:002011-10-24T00:03:19.344+01:00It's midnight and here I am reading your blog ...It's midnight and here I am reading your blog and about to snack on something moreish! ;-) No matter what our size or shape, so many of us grow up with issues around what we eat or what we look like - and it's tragic how much of this is passed on through generations. <br /><br />Your ability to see yourself and your past with clear eyes is shaping you not only as an excellent writer but as the best kind of mother - one that's true and kind and able to break the cycle of self-hate. I agree with an earlier comment -you're a beautiful woman who radiates joy and inner strength. Sorry I'm a bit longwinded, by the way I think this post is perfect for the NOW Carnival (on body image), I'll try and dig up the details - email me to remind if you can! xBabes about Townhttp://babesabouttown.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-28162962071581030082011-10-23T18:42:25.286+01:002011-10-23T18:42:25.286+01:00Gosh Sandy. I hadn't read this when I met you ...Gosh Sandy. I hadn't read this when I met you last week. I'd be offline most of the week. It was wonderful to see you and I was thrilled to bits you were at the UNICEF event because you are one of the loveliest bloggers I know. <br /><br />There is so much I could say here, you probably know that. All I will say is that the word 'hate' stands out for me and it's sad that you feel so negatively about yourself when you are such a wonderful person. I know you won't see that, but having previously felt the same way about myself I found talking to a therpist transformed everything. I think if you can tackle your feelings of self-worth then other areas of your life, like your relationship with food, will improve too. Or I could just keep coming over and telling you how great you are. You know where I am if you ever want to talk and I really do mean that. xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-73671290623657622732011-10-23T10:05:20.508+01:002011-10-23T10:05:20.508+01:00Oh Sandy i'm in bits. Weight has been one of t...Oh Sandy i'm in bits. Weight has been one of the biggest hurdles of my life. I want to give you a massive cuddle. Thank you SO much fo rputtignh this into the blog carnival. We muct be so careful with out children,Bexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08714072352502963730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-35232982105450194622011-10-22T16:13:06.905+01:002011-10-22T16:13:06.905+01:00I love you Sandy Calico!I love you Sandy Calico!Lindyhttp://www.squidgyboo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-41480249826280548582011-10-22T14:46:33.786+01:002011-10-22T14:46:33.786+01:00Big hugs.Big hugs.Jax Blunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09415759029231313958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-39718043231320295382011-10-22T09:40:53.916+01:002011-10-22T09:40:53.916+01:00Oh my lovely lady I wish I could have attended yes...Oh my lovely lady I wish I could have attended yesterday to give you a great big hug. I am doing SW at the moment but I'm really careful not to use the word diet around BG I don't want her to worry about her weight. xCaroljshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07754049247944556846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-40126709597687484142011-10-21T19:59:31.109+01:002011-10-21T19:59:31.109+01:00Sandy, when I see you all I see is a beautiful lad...Sandy, when I see you all I see is a beautiful lady (inside and out) you are always cheerful, always welcoming and always genuine and never without a smile. I am sure that you will be a fantastic role model for your children and for everyone out there who reads this very brave post who has issues with food too xxMummy Mattershttp://deepinmummymatters.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-58472249493751375402011-10-21T16:27:26.466+01:002011-10-21T16:27:26.466+01:00My boys will never hear the D word. I was very lu...My boys will never hear the D word. I was very lucky and grew up with a mum that didn't diet and didn't push one on meJen Walshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07374363403295342745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-54818863507014483342011-10-21T13:24:29.893+01:002011-10-21T13:24:29.893+01:00I was allowed to eat all kinds of junk as a kid. M...I was allowed to eat all kinds of junk as a kid. My lunch every day at school was a hamburger, chips, coke and a mars bar. My Mum didn't cook so I had frozen dinners at home, never anything fresh. I was skinny so no one questioned it but no wonder I had such awful skin and hair.<br /><br />I totally agree with you about everything in moderation and no diets, you are setting a great example for your boys (and all of us falls off the wagon once in a while) xMake do Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07835093264812306653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-38407446952429677182011-10-20T19:27:36.971+01:002011-10-20T19:27:36.971+01:00The Boy and Me, sorry I made you cry. It was a lon...The Boy and Me, sorry I made you cry. It was a long time ago but I'm glad I know the cause of my issues with food. Now to deal with them! xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-26225403735972516192011-10-19T23:52:16.163+01:002011-10-19T23:52:16.163+01:00This is such an amazing post, I found myself cryin...This is such an amazing post, I found myself crying earlier when I read it. Such amazing emotive writing, and I am so very sorry that you had to go through this.TheBoyandMehttp://www.theboyandme.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-56509935939384706182011-10-19T20:24:19.926+01:002011-10-19T20:24:19.926+01:00Kids Party Heaven, thank you for leaving such a th...Kids Party Heaven, thank you for leaving such a thoughtful comment. I totally agree and I despair at the body fascism in the media x<br /><br />Kat, thank you. We are extremely careful with the language we use around the children and try not to put labels on them for the exact reasons you mention. I'm feeling quite positive about reducing the binge eating now I've gone public. Getting rid of the guilt and body image issues may take longer x<br /><br />Zooarchaeologist, Fifi looks absolutely fine to me, but I can understand your concerns. It is so easy for food to become a toddler battle ground, so you try to be relaxed about it without letting them eat too many biscuits. Please let me know if your mother has advice x<br /><br />Very Bored, thank you. Luckily I was aware of the potential for this cycle to repeat before I had children, so I knew I wouldn't let it. Thanks for the RT too x<br /><br />Susan, thank you for the kind words and the hugs xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.com