tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post3239778279301168554..comments2023-12-27T15:25:34.048+00:00Comments on Baby Baby: On Friendshipsanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-29364548323199123762012-02-18T11:45:54.298+00:002012-02-18T11:45:54.298+00:00Fab Sandy. It took me ages to realise that special...Fab Sandy. It took me ages to realise that special friends weren't necessarily friends for life. I've just about come to terms with the fact that the friend who was my best woman at my wedding has totally vanished from my life but it is a hard life lesson. Another friend reappeared recently which was lovely and reminded me that everyone has those busy times when certain people are more connected to them than others and that that too changes. <br />My on line friends have been a revelation to me (I was very late to the game) and I think it works because we all have time to think a bit before we speak (not always, obviously, which is why the delete button is useful). We can suss each other out by watching interractions with others, we can read each other's blogs. Twitter has been a fantastic source of support for me, as my chidlren get older there aren't so many play dates and people go back to work, it can get very lonely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-83431502556056341302012-02-16T20:50:22.274+00:002012-02-16T20:50:22.274+00:00Emily, I love the internet for that reason too. I ...Emily, I love the internet for that reason too. I think, as bloggers, we have a lot in common and we like sharing. Making milk made me hot and sweaty too! xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-32755361849340368692012-02-16T20:48:14.528+00:002012-02-16T20:48:14.528+00:00Babes about Town, you're right, it is too earl...Babes about Town, you're right, it is too early to write them off. The more we meet up, the more the barriers will come down - I hope!sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-1048680411496017142012-02-16T20:47:06.732+00:002012-02-16T20:47:06.732+00:00Plan B, I thought you put it rather well. Yes, we ...Plan B, I thought you put it rather well. Yes, we change and friendships change too. A lot of people have said that once your children go to school you will make a lot of friends at the school gate and that seems to be the case. For us it is early days and hopefully we will soon get to the stage where we can all be open enough to admit that it is hard. I think wine may be required!sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-76824777766320637802012-02-16T20:44:16.802+00:002012-02-16T20:44:16.802+00:00Bloggomy, that's lovely though. I think the di...Bloggomy, that's lovely though. I think the difference for me is that we only moved here last year and I haven't shared my blog with any of my new friends yet! xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-91433184719454558512012-02-16T20:42:56.322+00:002012-02-16T20:42:56.322+00:00Gigi, the mummy mantra - this too shall pass! Than...Gigi, the mummy mantra - this too shall pass! Thank you. We will be introducing a reward chart next week!sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-72400919260847096082012-02-16T20:41:55.063+00:002012-02-16T20:41:55.063+00:00Photopuddle, we've moved around the country a ...Photopuddle, we've moved around the country a bit recently so my new friends are the ones I've made since September, so it is early days. I hope we'll become a group of friends like you have.sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-90389574171895774832012-02-16T20:39:58.702+00:002012-02-16T20:39:58.702+00:00The Moiderer, I suppose there's no right or wr...The Moiderer, I suppose there's no right or wrong. It's what you feel comfortable doing.sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-12324699823742517432012-02-16T20:33:26.833+00:002012-02-16T20:33:26.833+00:00I love this post and totally agree with so much of...I love this post and totally agree with so much of it. I have a few very close RL friends but so many of can't be honest about their mothering lives in particular and that drives me mad. I love the internet, it's the only place that I feel normal. even when I tweeted that making milk makes me hot and sweaty there was someone to agree with me. Think it was that @vwallop woman ;)Mummy Limitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393114153265136226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-43978087152783856182012-02-16T00:52:57.146+00:002012-02-16T00:52:57.146+00:00Great post. It's also a useful way of looking ...Great post. It's also a useful way of looking at things so that you keep an open mind and don't write off the nursery mums straight away.<br /><br />I've actually made some of my best offline 'mum' friends by being upfront and honest about whatever struggles/madness is going on with me and the kids at the time. I think parenting makes you quite frank in other respects, really have to cut through the crap (it's all those butts we wipe) - so hang in there, I'm sure you'll all be swapping woes and funny tales soon too.Babes about Townhttp://babesabouttown.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-29090546523313994172012-02-15T19:17:18.047+00:002012-02-15T19:17:18.047+00:00Thank you for the plug - and for the post, which I...Thank you for the plug - and for the post, which I think puts it all rather better than I did!<br /><br />It is interesting isn't it? I think we forget that friendships change as we, and our needs and interests, change. But any change is hard and this one seems to be particularly tricky.<br /><br />I think your nursery mums are rubbish though! I promise, in real life or otherwise, never to pretend this mothering malarkey isn't bl00dy hard sometimes! But then maybe that's because I'm a blogger!Harriethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11975259590293860488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-41807496195519516782012-02-15T16:07:35.131+00:002012-02-15T16:07:35.131+00:00An interesting post... I have a strange twist as o...An interesting post... I have a strange twist as one of my oldest friends is also a blogger on Twitter so the paths cross xBloggomyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12131094860508125498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-90881455736717156422012-02-14T00:02:00.017+00:002012-02-14T00:02:00.017+00:00I think your Mother-in-law nailed it. The online ...I think your Mother-in-law nailed it. The online folks are used to sharing and the real ones? Well, unfortunately, a lot of them are used to being judged - so they tend to put on that happy face. I can tell you for a fact, that their children aren't perfect little drones that put on their shoes and coats the first time they are asked.<br /><br />As for where you are right now - this too shall pass. Hugs.Gigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05467164195744234746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-45474491697237366602012-02-13T22:04:40.412+00:002012-02-13T22:04:40.412+00:00Really interesting post. I am very lucky actually ...Really interesting post. I am very lucky actually in that I have some very good mummy friends in the real life. We've known each other since our children were tiny and we do talk openly about any troubles we've been having with our little ones. There's always someone able to offer advice or if not it's just nice to know that you're not the only one facing a particular problem. To be honest I think the past three years would have been a lot harder without them and I feel so incradibly grateful to have such a great group of friends. <br />P.S. Hating the term "Mummy" friends as were not just "mummies" we do go out without the children of an evening and act like grown ups too!PhotoPuddlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07208041274634842414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3629523777912990939.post-56018508291456863342012-02-13T21:19:51.056+00:002012-02-13T21:19:51.056+00:00Interesting. Can't imagine being brave enough ...Interesting. Can't imagine being brave enough to share challenges with Real People . As you know I tell everything online!The Moidererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04393442702246562854noreply@blogger.com